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Hi, I'm Wesley. I help couples understand why they have times of feeling alone, frustrated, and confused with the person they once felt the most connected to. I love working with all different constellations of couples - straight and LGBTQ.

I use a specific kind of couples therapy called Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (that's not a typo, by the way, it's technically called couple therapy). EFT is an evidence-based model of couples therapy and I've never seen anything else work the way this model can. I have completed the advanced training in this method and continue learning with supervision and workshops while I work towards certification. I also use The Gottman Method in my work and find their rock-solid assessment and focus on intentionally building positive bonds with partners highly effective. I have completed Levels I and II in The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy.

Want to know me a little more personally? I am from California, and have lived in Massachusetts, Wisconsin, Virginia, and now Charlotte. I'm a California girl at heart, and you'll often hear me asking you how exercise is fitting into your self care. I try to be myself in the room and want you to be yourself. My belief is that it's not about perfection with couples, or with families - it's about the repair. Do you effectively repair so that each of you feel heard and cared about?


For all of us, the person we love most in the world, the one who can send us soaring joyfully into space, is also the person who can send us crashing back to earth. All it takes is a slight turning of the head or a flip, careless remark. There is no closeness without this sensitivity. If our connection with our mate is safe and strong, we can deal with these moments of sensitivity. Indeed, we can use them to bring our partner even closer. But when we don’t feel safe and connected, these moments are like a spark in a tinder forest. They set fire to the whole relationship.
— Dr. Sue Johnson, "Hold Me Tight"

CREDENTIALS

Licensed Professional Counselor #10859, North Carolina Board of Professional Counselors

National Board of Certified Counselors, NCC

Emotionally-Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) Externship

Emotionally-Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) Core Skills Training

Completed Level I Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy

Completed Level II Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy

Masters in Counseling, University of Wisconsin, Oshkosh (CACREP Accredited)

Bachelors of Arts, Mount Holyoke College

International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Member